two cultures collide - my side doesn’t drink or dance, his side does. what to do?!

I am a 33F marrying a 31M. I’m looking for some practical solutions to this dilemma. My parents and whole side of the family does not agree with alcohol or dancing at the wedding. His side of the family wouldn’t know what to do at a wedding that doesn’t have alcohol and dancing. I have already decided that I will have some alcohol at my wedding, but I am trying to figure out how to make it subtle and less “in your face.” I was thinking to have a coffee truck and then also an alcohol cart that serves a couple of alcoholic cocktails, as well as some mocktails. Does anyone have any other ideas of subtle ways to include alcohol?

And what about the dancing? How can I include some dancing but not make my family uncomfortable?