Am I asking for too much?

Am I asking for too much?

I made a post a long while ago suspecting I’m a sub and not knowing to approach this potential side of me. I’m still figuring things out but I wanted some help clarifying things in my own head. My friends and friends all think it’s weird and/or selfish when I say I want a partner so that he can do specific things for me. I don’t know how to explain it’s not quite that simple and I’m not just hoping to for a servant.

The best I know how to put it is my father. My father, like in many cases, is a model of what I would like my partner to be like. My dad may be busy but won’t hesitate to make time or help me in anyway he can from states away. When I moved to a new state, he drove halfway across the country just to help me move and put together the big things (I.e my bed and dresser) because I’m not very handy. I try not to inconvenience him too much but for me, he always makes it happen. When I have questions (even if they’re dumb or seem obvious) despite being a very smart man, he is far from judgmental and will explain it to me in the best way he can and oftentimes, it works. He’s patient and not quick to react. My mom can be a bit quick tempered and as a child when I got in trouble in school, rather than be quick to punish, he always would ask WHY I had done it and allowed me to explain the situation in depth. Only then, would he tell what I did wrong and why it was wrong. To this day, my mom uses telling my dad as a threat because although I’m not afraid of him, I respect him so much that I don’t feel good (in simple terms) disappointing or angering him. There’s very little I can’t go to my dad about. If it’s broke, he’ll fix it or at least try the best he can.

Thus, I want these same qualities in a partner. I am told frequently that I am smart and I am not opposed to working as I have my bachelors and am currently getting my masters in medicine. I don’t expect for all my bills to paid for (although it wouldn’t hurt lol) and I look forward to supporting him by being his biggest cheerleader and making him happy in the best way I can even if I’m not great at the typically housewife stuff like cooking or cleaning. Although for my partner, I would gladly take cooking classes to satisfy and feed my partner. However, I’m also often told that women should be independent and know how to do things like change a tire and build things and know car information and learn how to be able to function if I don’t have a man. I’ve always been independent and if I don’t have help, I always make a way but I must admit things like learning how to change a tire and building things, I truly don’t want to know. This is something (one of those things) I would like my man/husband/even daddy to take care of. I want to be able to go to him for anything and know even if he can’t, he’ll do his best to take of it. But I don’t expect him to do it alone. I don’t want a servant, I want a partner who leans a bit more on the caring/ nurturing side. I can be disorganized and though I hate routine, I do perform better with it. I want to be able to feel youthful and silly without any judgement and leave the big stuff for him. But I also want to be his partner and be his rock and his support when he needs it. I love gift giving so I look forward to days where I shop and I see something I think he’d like or remember something he said he would like 3 months ago and bring it home to him just to see him smile or brighten his day a little. I know I’m asking for a lot like physical support and emotional support and some praise and comfort would also be lovely as I don’t do well with rejection and bloom under praise when I get it. But am I asking too much? Is it wrong to want to be taken care of? I think I might be looking for a daddy but everyone I know thinks I’m looking for the wrong things and maybe I’m looking in the wrong places or talking to the wrong people? Or maybe I am asking for too much and not giving enough in return. Any advice? Am I actually looking for a daddy?

Sorry for the long rant.