Ndad just tried to make his debt our responsibility

My ndad recently let it slip that he added my brother, sister, and me as members to an LLC he has. My brother did some digging and spoke to our mom and we believe this LLC is where he allocated hundreds of thousands of dollars of debt from his house and business. We believe he is trying to make us responsible for his debt.

This is not the first time he has made his financial problems other people’s issues, primarily his family member’s issues. When my parents were still married, he borrowed a large sum from my maternal grandfather and promised to pay him back with interest, but never did. When I was 11, we moved into the house his brother owns and my dad didn’t pay rent for 6 months. My mom had cancer at the time and wasn’t working and was completely left in the dark until my uncle called her. She filed for divorce after she found out, but he made the divorce so difficult it took 5 years for him to sign the papers.

My mom is also taking him to court because he left her on the mortgage to his house (which was almost repossessed a few years ago) despite their divorce papers stating that he takes the house. The abuse my mom faced during their marriage and divorce changed her, she developed drinking problem, and became angry and distant. It’s been 10 years since they legally divorced and she only recently started feeling like herself again.

Possibly worst of all, my brother was in a car accident in high school and was badly injured. He had a terrible concussion that led to a suicide attempt, had multiple surgeries, PT, and was disqualified from being able to serve in the military (his dream). The day he got the $50k settlement check our dad picked him up and had him deposit the money into a joint account and our dad promised to add to it for his college. The next day our brother was taken off the account. He was a minor so we couldn’t pursue legal actions. When we confronted our father, he pretended like it never happened.

My brother and I are going to confront our father, but I doubt he’ll take any accountability. We are no-contact with our sister. Our dad convinced her to cut us off 5 years ago because we decided to have a relationship with our mother and he pays our sister to keep us blocked.

Since my parents split, we have had a very inconsistent relationship with our father, mostly just the occasional dinner. I went to college in an area he frequently does business in and he would only see me if he had a girlfriend to impress. When I told him to stop making me meet girlfriends, he no longer invited me to dinner. After this matter is settled my brother and I plan to cut him out of our lives. We will have the lawyer contact our sister just so she is aware.

I don’t understand why my dad has never been held accountable for his decisions. This isn’t the first time he’s scammed people. I know he has a rough reputation around our hometown for slimy behavior. I have no tolerance for narcissists.