Anyone else have parents that valued your physical appearance over health?

TW// Eating Disorders, Abuse

For context, I’ve always had issues as a child with my stomach, leg cramps, malnutrition and a slew of other random health issues. Turns out I had celiac for years without ever knowing or realizing it until I was 20. Although it’s feels crazy knowing that a bunch of my symptoms were practically ignored by my parents because they thought I was just fat and they disliked it. They valued my looks over anything. Obviously narcissistic parents tend to treat you as an extension of themselves and their “extension” can’t be fat or chubby because it looks bad on them. But I always had a swollen gut, I gained weight easily, and my metabolism was shot because of the fact that I had celiac. Although because my parents hated the way I look they’d encourage me to not eat for days because of my medical issues. It even would be to the point where my parents would get mad whenever I’d eat after a few days because I was “ruining my progress.” Also anytime I would get horrible stomach cramps they would blame it on me sitting down way too often and get mad because I could barely walk around which was a pain in their ass. I had so many health issues that went unnoticed or they would blame it on something else or because I didn’t do something enough. The fact that they made me develop an eating disorder in my teen years because they’d rather care about my looks rather than my health makes me sad sometimes.