Mom doesn't want me to be successful

like literally, it goes to the point she will be trying to gaslight me that i.e. being fat is good, being in debt is good. She has in fact actively tried to ruin me as well, but i cant go into details here. before any of the smart assess attack me 4 victimhood or come with other cliches, i merely want to know the psychology of this behavior, as this is a sign of hate not love obviously, shed of course try to disguise it as advice. imagine having a "loving partner" that locks you at home because he wants u to relax from work