Pro-choicer with questions

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I’m pro-choice and have some genuine questions. I want a respectful, honest, thoughtful discussion. I have friends who are pro-life, and friends who have had abortions. In no way do I want to argue. I just have some genuine questions and enjoy discussions with people who view things differently from me!

I 100% understand and respect the pro-life argument. I can understand the view point of it saving a life. My biggest question is regarding saving the life of the mother. Often times these discussions turn to arguments and it’s difficult because each side feels so strongly. My biggest fear is not having access to life saving procedures when I decide to get pregnant. I myself could never have an abortion. However, I have health issues and fear miscarriages. My concern with the national abortion ban or other regulations is having a miscarriage or ectopic pregnancy and dying because the doctors couldn’t act quickly. I fear them taking too long to save me because they had to call their lawyer, or simply don’t have access to the medication I need. I fear this for others as well as it’s already happening. My doctor has already told me I have a 50% chance of having miscarriages.

What is everyone’s thoughts on this? Is there a happy medium? How do we fight for the lives of the mothers as well? Do we see a path where we can save everyone? As a therapist I’ve been hearing a lot of fears around this from my clients (from both sides). Again, I’m not hear to argue I genuinely want your thoughts.

Edit: I want to clarify that my reason for posting was to understand the pro-life view of a total ban and how it pertains to life saving procedures, such as an abortion when there is an ectopic pregnancy. There is a lot of fear in the pro-choice side of things regarding this. :)