HOW DO YOU ALL DO IT?!!!!

I know the answer is calorie deficit. But for me I've used food as a comfort for so long it seems impossible. Every morning I'd start off strong then derail and overeat in the evening. It doesn't help that I'm a good cook too. It's so hard for me to just put the fork down sometimes. I stopped eating fast food and takeout as much, but now it's like I'm overeating the healthy food and homemade crap?!?! Please help because I can't keep up with my mental gymnastics of eating 2000-2400 calories with my stats and expecting to lose and getting surprised when I don't. I genuinely don't understand how some of you do it AND stay consistent everyday. Congrats to the people who made it over that hill though!

Stats: 5',4", Female, SW: 241 lbs, CW: 223.0 pounds lbs, GW: 129.0 lbs