Relationship advice

I don’t have much relationship experience so I’d appreciate your thoughts on this.

I’m a INFP male, and I’m talking to a INTJ female. On paper we have 50%-60% compatibility, but we had such an amazing first date. Like, that date brought so much joy to my miserable existence. I had my arm around her, she would lean into me and the conversations and even the silence felt right with her. We share a lot of the same interests and I had such a good feeling about us. Our personality descriptions are dead on for both of us if that helps you get the idea of us.

The biggest challenges for us according to the internet would be me being too sensitive and listening too much to my emotions and her being to blunt and not comfortable communicating her emotions.

I read it and dismissed it, but as I started talking to her more and more I realized that this might be a big problem.

I flirt with her heavily, I used every ounce of brain power I had to communicate a thousand different ways how much I liked her without using the “L” word. On the date I could tell she enjoyed it, but she wouldn’t really reciprocate. There could be a million different reasons explaining this, but according to her personality type I don’t think she ever will (at least how I’d like her to) and that has me feeling kind of empty and sad inside.

Another thing is her bluntness. I was sure we could figure that out or I could handle it, and I got a taste of it today. We were joking around and she was telling me that she was very average and could be better, and I held back the urge to tell her she’s amazing because she’s told me she hates that. Instead I proposed that if I have to keep my compliments for you to myself, it’s fair that she keeps her “humbleness downtalk” to herself because it feed my urge to compliment her.

She says “hmpf, fine.” And I jokingly mimic her saying “hmpf, fine- I won’t be mean to myself.”

That made her upset. She said “I don’t like you speaking for me. Don’t project onto me”

I immediately apologized. After some contemplation I apologized again saying I didn’t realize what I was doing and didn’t mean any harm. Then she says

“I accept your apology.”

It was a small thing, but her bluntness hurt like it said it would on paper. Maybe I’m stupid and I’m missing something, but I didn’t think that joke was something to get that upset over?

And that brings us to where I’m at now, questioning if we even have a chance at being happy together. Am I going to be able to be myself around her? Am I over reacting? Should I cut this off before it becomes too difficult?

If you’ve read this far, I appreciate you friend.