Why can’t we have a hot, witty, actually grown-up, red-haired man?

I swear, every single time an author describes a male character with long, luscious, intensely red hair and a quick wit he then is either gay and/or a total piece of trash and abusive to everyone. Why? WHY??

Are there any good ones out there who are also into women?? I can’t tell you how fast I fell for Galen (Paladin’s Hope) in terms of looks, wit, and actual adult functioning brain only to have the rug pulled from under me yet again.

(Look, I know Lucien is into women, but SJM has done him so dirty in the later books that I can’t even address it beyond this sentence.)

Long story short: men like Galen (in looks and personality would be ideal) from the Saint of Steel series but they’re into women; who has recommendations?