My homophobic aunt cheated on my uncle with the youth pastor....and she thinks I'm the evil one for being gay

The title says it all. My aunt slept with the youth pastor behind my uncle's back. She also had a secret abortion. I barely talk to them, but my uncle told my mom everything because he couldn't tell the church

And my aunt judges the HELL out of gay people, man. Like, badly. I remember being at my grandma's house and she'd yell, "Eww!" In front of her kids to influence them into hating gay people, too.

Well-cut to the present- She had a secret abortion, cheated on my uncle with the YOUTH PASTOR...My uncle confronted the guy and he said, "You pushed her away. I didn't take her from you."

The reason I am saying all this on here again is because....she just found out I'm gay yesterday. I was at a pizza place with my male friend. I was wearing a love is love hat. She saw me, I saw her, and she gave me a judgmental look before talking to her friend about just leaving church. The audacity is real people. Oh my god.

I have mixed feelings about all this. My grandparents do not know I'm gay. She could tell them. A few months ago, my number got recycled to a pervert, sending my uncle sexual, erotic messages (again, I barely talk to the guy). I'm worried If I come out, they will think that was me.

But I also think, if they truly loved me, they would already know I'm gay and I wouldn't do something like that...but if fucking sucks, man.