A dealbreaker found late?
So I’m 7-dates in with who I’d describe as a great partner (and great sex). A condom mishap led her to tell me she was infertile which seemed unusual for her age so I asked her birth year. She was ten years older than I thought. Her age was acceptable but afterwards I looked up our match notification and Googled her and she lied about her age on her dating profile. She looks younger. She was +1yr beyond my filters so I otherwise would not have met her, and only 1 of a dozen friends I showed her pic to asked about her age.
Lying is a dealbreaker. I NEXT people before meeting or on date 1-2 for it. It’s hard to apply that when it’s date 7. Feelings are involved. And obviously my filters were too narrow since I’d have wanted to match this woman.
NEXT as a red flag, or take it as a yellow flag and watch for other issues since I’ve seen many positives from her?
Update 12/11: I got a brief apology via text and phone. She said it is what it is and would understand if I wanted to breakup. She claims she put her age in her bio text, but I read it many times and trust my recollection over hers.
We’ve shared 8 incredible dates, countless laughs, and created beautiful holiday memories. Her support has positively impacted my children’s lives. I’m still understandably skeptical of her honesty and future intentions. My heart and therapist suggest patience, recognizing the positive impact she’s had. Time will reveal if this relationship is truly as promising as it seems.