Being nice doesn't work

Just realizing that being nice gets you no where. Honestly it's worse than not being nice. Recently I went through some shit and had realizations that led me to forgo that nice shit and be as straight up as possible.

I'm not smiling everytime I meet someone anymore. I'm not smiling at work just to seem approachable. I'm not giving ppl leeway on shit. Crazy enough things are better this way. Instantly more ppl started to dislike me but I also started to have more things go my way.

Ppl arent coming to me with the micro-management bs. They aren't asking me to do more shit than I signed up for. When it's time to go, I'm gone. I also feel like I can assert myself more. I guess the reality is that niceness is politeness and that politeness gets in the way of you truly speaking your mind and going for what you want.

The worst thing about being nice is the shitty relationships you build. I recently started to notice that so many of the people Ive met are turning out to be assholes, like I really believe that being nice all the time makes ppl devalue you in their mind. Overtime they get more comfortable treating you in any type of way. It's like the exact opposite of what I thought would happen.

I think as a black man this is extremely important to realize because so many people want to treat you in any sort of way and alot of them already look down on you. If you welcome that shit in things just get worse, until you get to the point where you realize they actually don't give a fuck about you even after all the shit you did for them. Or they want you to do even more shit. Or you get chastised for the small mistakes you make because ppl like doing that for some reason.

Also I have nothing against gay guys but ever since I adopted this I have had a lot less of them hit on me. Since I'm not gay it's a plus 😂

Finally nothing really changes. I thought I'd lose jobs, nope. I thought I'd lose relationships. Yes, but only the ones I didn't want in the first place.

If anything it seems like people respect me more and I'd rather be disliked but respected than liked but disregarded.