Best friend just had a baby and proudly admits she doesn’t vote

Throwaway account because bestie and her hubby are on Reddit.

My best friend (F34) and her hubby (M37) just had a baby a few months ago. Both of them have always been the type of people to go wherever the wind takes them and they’ll figure it out. The exact opposite of me—I always need a plan for everything and then a plan for the plan. My bestie always had the opinion of “I guess I would like a kid one day” and her hubby was in the camp of “whatever she wants to do, I’m okay with it.” When my bestie finally went off the pill, the plan was for them to just keep doing their normal thing and whatever happens happens. Well, exactly once was all it took!

Her whole pregnancy stressed me out. Her and hubby did zero planning. Didn’t read a single book or do any research. Didn’t come up with a birth plan or ask any questions to the doctor. “They’ll tell me what I need to know when I need to know it.” They didn’t even set up the nursery until 2 weeks before her due date.

Baby came and both mom and baby are healthy. Bestie and hubby’s lives have been turned upside down. She is very much the fussiest baby I have ever seen and is constantly screaming. Bestie and hubby call baby their “jailer” and say they have “Stockholm syndrome” from her. But they do treat her like the lil baby princess she is and give her everything she could ever possibly want or need. They’re definitely doing the best they can with her in this stage.

But here’s the thing…about a month ago, my husband, bestie, and bestie’s hubby were all talking about how fucked the world is and general politics. Bestie piped up and proudly announced that she doesn’t vote and hasn’t ever voted. Her hubby said the same thing. My jaw and my husband’s jaw both fell to the floor. Keeping up with politics makes my bestie sad, so she doesn’t pay attention. I have never been more mad at her in our whole 7 year friendship.

Since then, every political doomsday headline I see makes me absolutely furious at my bestie for bringing this poor baby into the world. Especially since she’s a girl. I keep passively aggressively sharing news articles in our group chat and want to say with all of them “you owe it to your daughter to vote so things like this aren’t still happening when she grows up.” But obviously I know I can’t because that would be the end of our friendship.

I just don’t know how to move past this angry resentment I feel towards my bestie for being so selfish.