So my husbands sulking away like a lost sheep. I feel just pure frustration.

Currently hes sulking away and not really talking to me. His apology was raised eyebrows followed by surly and unwilling "SORRY" that honestly makes me feel pure rage and im having tough time letting go as this is the type of apology i get everytime for past 15 years.

Background. I cannot stand being groped in public. I really dont like having my nipples squeezed no matter the day, occasion or otherwise. Much less when i'm trying to take a shit or in the middle of brushing teeth, cooking, cleaning, handling our child.

I get it, hes turned on by me, he loves me, but no matter how many times i've asked nicely like this "can you please not touch my breasts, they hurt" or "can you please not squeeze my nipples i actually really dislike/ hate it" or "can you stop touching them during sex, this is a huge turnoff for me". All falls on deaf ears as i always have to ask again and again and again. I hate them being sucked, twisted, pulled etc and yet he keeps trying to do all that.

For the past two years since i had our child this feeling of discomfort has gone to extreme. I feel uncontrollable rage/ frustration and discomfort when anyone touches my nipples. Breastfeeding was hard, its only been 8 months since i stopped. They still haven't healed and psychological strain from the pain i felt while breastfeeding still makes me cry. He knows how i breastfed while crying from how much it hurt. But i tried my best for our preemie.

Today happened. I was wearing a thin bra and a teeshirt - its really warm. You could see my nipples. I LITERALLY just got off the toilet when he nicked at both nipples with his thumbs and index finger and went in for a kiss, i literally had instant reaction of flailing and speed tapping his hands away repeatedly away from me. He made a pikachu face of "wow somethings wrong with you"

The physical sensation was like someone pressed nettles on my boobs. Instead i speed tapped away his hands and asked "how hard is it to do just one thing, one thing i ask you to not do, can you not understand how it makes me feel?" Then i raised my voice at him to get out of the bathroom (ensuite).

He walked out of the bedroom with what sounded like "fucking psycho" under his breath.

I was near tears my entire body literally buzzing with frustration and itchiness. I cant help it.

I showered and came down and talked it it out kinda like this:

"Hey, so whenever you have your privates out i dont come to you with tweezers to pluck something out everytime - so why is it ok for you to do one thing i tell you causes me so much distress and discomfort and you walk off calling me names". I ranted bit more. He ended it by literally making an annoyed face, raising his eyebrows and surly mumbling sorry and then going "BUT you didn't need to flail around like a psycho" and went back to vacuuming.

The non apology literally has me in a weird place. Everytime everything is followed with a "BUT".

Did i way overreact? Am i expecting too much from a partner to care about how i feel? Am i wrong for feeling upset for 15 years of not being heard about the damned nipples that i do occasionally let him touch when i know they aren't too sensitive. Like, how hard it is to understand that its not a turn on for me, its an annoyance.

Hes sulking downstairs, while im boiling with upset upstairs. Hes acting like im in the wrong, like he is right to do it and im batshit insane for reacting that way and feeling upset. Like his "but" has any weight to make it right for him to do it or justified to react to my poor reaction the way he did.

I hope this doesnt get deleted. Honestly i just want to be heard out.

Clarification: I prance around naked when i feel like after shower or before bed time. Playful slap on the butt, a squeeze on the boobs, naked cuddles - this is all the norm in this relationship. I feel safe and comfortable in my home. I like when he slaps my butt. Im ok with a boob grope when they are not achey from hormones. I like gentle boob squeezes - this is all ok. Its just the nips. If he stopped touching me altogether id be concerned, but that is not to say that the touching that drives me up the wall is ok too - IT ISNT. And to date hes been fairly good with that - just not the friggin NIPS.

STOP THE BLOODY SA BANDWAGON.

Yes i get pissed when its my nips, but its not SA and this was by far my biggest reaction. No he barely does PDA - because he knows it, but sometimes it happens - the butt grope when i wear those pants. He knows i dont like them having sucked much - but lactation was a huge turn on, he wanted to taste it few times.

We're adults, we do the sex. We sometimes try stuff during sex and then sometimes we get pissy about the other person that tried and and we really didnt like ti. We talk, we agree not to do it, but sometimes the boobs squeeze which im ok with turns into nip roll and poke and squeeze - like autopilot.

i dont understand how any of that would be manufactured into SA based on what i wrote that actually pissed me off - one occasion, the instance that led up to it. Dont you all have something that occasionally drives you mad about your LONG TERM partner? If you dont, you haven't lived together long enough.

Moment like this happen, they do, this was not SA but what really sucked is what happened afterwards, gaslighting, his sulking and the pure frustration i had for a whole day.