A "Peer" Review

After seeing the most recent dating diary, the clip from the live about how sexy everyone finds her and all of the "locked in" videos leading up to her "life changing" mommy makeover, I wanted to share my thoughts lol. For context, I grew up in one of the wealthiest neighborhoods in the country (not saying this as a flex, I just know how the world she desperately wants into works).

I want to start off by saying dating and marrying rich is not all it's cracked up to be. It is extremely transactional, and most of the people I grew up with would tell you it's nothing to aspire to. Wealth can breed some of the most fucked up, dysfunctional relationship and family dynamics.

I think Jess first popped up on my FYP during COVID, maybe right before? I'm in my 20's, live in a big city and her content led me to believe she was similar, so at face value I thought her NYC dating content was fun and mildly interesting whenever it popped up. Thought the job title dropping and designer item flexing in every video was a bit cringe but didn't really think much of it or look into her at all, would just watch from the FYP. Last year, I stumbled across this page and I was fucking SHOCKED to say the least lol.

She clearly gets off on the validation she receives from her followers (single women- maybe older, from small towns, or women in their early 20's with little dating experience outside of high school/college- all of whom don't experience a dating scene like NYC) asking how she's "bagging all these rich men" who treat her to the "finer things in life" aka dinners and drinks. Regardless, all the praise must've led her to the conclusion that she is somehow above them, constantly reminding her audience what a beautiful, sexy, incredible conversationalist she is and that she is simply dating her "peers."

She makes these lawyers, bankers, doctors, etc. seem "unattainable" and "ultra rich" when in reality, NYC is a notoriously extremely expensive place to live and men of a certain "status" aren't exactly difficult to come by. Yes, they do extremely well for themselves, but they are nowhere near the level of opulent wealth Jess makes them out to be. Often, these guys can be pretty absent partners- constantly working, extremely busy, spending their little free time on their own interests, etc. They tend to be pretty lonely, and opt for romantic situations that are easily accessible but don't require a lot of their effort or attention until they're ready to settle down. Lackluster at best, but have status and can afford nice things like dinners and gifts, which is why they're seen as such a "prize" to deeply insecure women like Jess.

When they do settle down, it's true that most of the wives and girlfriends in the circles are the stereotypical thin, polished and poised women you'd expect to find at a country club or an episode of Real Housewives. Often coming from money themselves, THESE are the women they consider their peers. Of course, there's a couple here and there that may be a bit more unconventional or eccentric but they all had SOMETHING to make them the "exceptions" to the rule. They were all extremely well educated, independently wealthy/successful, artistic, talented, etc. This alone sets the barrier for entry far too high for Jess to be taken seriously, as she is an undereducated former celebrity makeup artist turned micro-influencer who posts dating content and has a candle at Free People.

I don't think she realizes that regardless of her weight, her age, her *tragic* fashion sense, her shitty tattoos, her social media presence- the barrier for entry will ALWAYS be too high. She can change everything about herself- her accent, her face, her body and it will NEVER be enough. She's a 40-something thinking she has "something to prove" on a never-ending glow up journey to nowhere.