Roast My Budget / Want to Ax Travel & Trim Food

Title. Tell me what you think are the most ridiculous and reasonable expenses. ~12k take home after max Roth IRA and HSA and health insurance. 2 kids (5 & 2) with a SAHP.

Mortgage 2500/mo (includes $300/mo contribution to rental property for family member)

Food 2200/mo (~300/week grocery + ~750/mo other foodstuffs from Target/Amazon)

Travel 3000/mo (2-3 large trips each year + 2-3 other weekend trips, travel to see family out of state)

Dining Out / Entertainment 750/mo (150/wk + other activities, sports games, theater, etc)

Gifting 800/mo (holidays, birthdays, weddings, we have a big family and do a lot for all of them)

Kids 529 600/mo (300 each)

Kids Preschool & Activities 600/mo

Cable/Internet/Phone/Subscriptions 325/mo

Home Utilities 350/mo (gas, electric, trash, water)

Clothes/Shoes + Other Shopping 350/mo (this is 75% kids)

Babysitting 350/mo (3x monthly)

Housekeeping 300/mo (75 weekly it's a family member we support).

Automotive 250/mo (gas + insurance + reg maintenance, no payments)

Life insurance 200/mo (umbrella, term, small whole policy I inherited)

Out of pocket healthcare & pet 200/mo (haircuts, vitamin, meds)

Household Maintenance 200/mo (Lawn/Landscaping/Snow Removal)