Spanking… and why it’s not needed

Triggered right now talking to other dads. They believe every kid is different… and don’t take accountability for how every parent is different, and it annoys the hell out of me because they blame the kids for needing a spanking instead of look at their own behavior as parents and question if they can discipline without the spanking. It’s flipping annoying. Someone tell me something to tell me it’s not up to the parent.. and that some kids need it. Tell me so I can yell at you and get this off my chest please