Female versus male protagonists

Hoping I won’t get downvoted for this, but

This could just be me, but I’ve noticed a theme with female protagonists. (I’m female btw) I’ve noticed that most female protagonists are very violent. Like they have to prove that they aren’t some girl who is all sweet and likes boys and is kind. It’s like some female protagonists can’t be kind or nurturing since they have to be cool and strong.

Meanwhile, male protagonists get to be not only cool and fight, but they get to be empathetic and kind.

Call me cheesy but I actually love empathetic protagonists who are kind and loving. I feel like some female protagonists are given a disservice by not having these traits.

I don’t know if I’m expressing this well.