Their body, their choice

My closest friend is agender and they suffer from debilitating periods. After the election they wanted to get on birth control but they still haven’t made the appointment with their gyno bc it almost certainly makes them dysphoric to do so. I’m not going to pester them but I just feel terrible for them and just want them not to worry about their body.

They also seem like they would be so much happier with top surgery; they put on a binder and looked so happy and confident. But you know what? I can’t convince them because I’m not in their body. I can’t tell them what to do because it’s more about the secondhand pain I feel than their experience of their body and their gender.

I feel like I’m assuming so much because we don’t always talk about this stuff, I’m a trans woman and it makes me dysphoric and me hurt to see them in pain. But it’s not my responsibility. We are two people in two bodies and while I hope they do what’s best for them, I don’t know that for sure because I am not them.

I’m proud of myself for this development so naturally I need external validation from reddit LOL but still very happy about this individuation.