Anyone Else Not A Fan of Automatic Cruise Control?

So I'll probably catch some flack for this; but I really do not like ACC.

I have standard cruise control in my own car, so I fully understand the benefit of a system to maintain the throttle on a run, in fact I argue it makes things safer as you have less things to focus on so can pay more attention to the road for longer.

I regularly get hire cars for work trips and most are very new, so have the full suite of systems including ACC (And Lane Keep Assist, which I utterly despise...)

But ACC I cannot get on with. It feels like I'm constantly arguing with it for control of the car. I will regularly pause my Cruise to let gaps open, or to engine brake as I approach a slower vehicle and the re-engage it. I'll even let the Cruise control the car back up to speed after exiting roundabouts on occasions. I feel like I'm taking full advantage of the system while still ensuring I'm in control of the car; it slows when I want, accelerates when I want, the rest of the time it just maintains the speed I've asked for.

With ACC I feel like I'm having to override it far more often. It will wait until it needs to actively brake before slowing, or when I make an overtake and move behind a car which is going faster, the system stamps on the brakes because it doesn't realise the car is moving faster than me, and is now slowing the car when it needs to be accelerating.

I know someone will say "Well you should wait for the gap to be big enough." and strictly speaking, yes, you're right, but I'm not talking about being a playing cards width from the car in front, I'm talking a gap that is smaller than ideal but is growing and by the time I'm finish the manoeuvre, it will be a 2s gap, or more, but the system only sees "Car too close, brake.", meaning the car behind may have to brake.

I'm sure it's one of those that things that is a case of getting used to it, but I feel like with ACC I have to give up a degree of driving control that I'm not comfortable with.

Maybe I'm just a dinosaur.