What are the red flags for swiping?
So I’ve been using this app for years now. Not consistently, but more like an on and off thing. My experience has been noticeably different every time, gradually getting worse and worse. I also think I wasn’t as strict and picky when I was younger, but now, considering my life and my own achievements, there’s a lot to expect.
So naturally my filters grew over time. If I want to sort them out, I think there’s always that first picture that holds a lot of weight in my judgment. Like if it’s a selfie, if they’re shirtless, if they’re not smiling, if I don’t like their appearance in general, etc.
Then there’s the job and education section, which I wasn’t as picky before but now it’s a huge deal for me that they’re in the same industry as me.
And here’s the list of more things I swipe left on. - they have a pet (scared of animals) - they have gym pictures - so many selfies - don’t have a good fashion style - group photos - “intimacy without commitment” or “s.. positivity” - religious (I’m atheist) - Some ethnicities(cultural differences) - picture with another girl - travel mode
I understand how this list seems like but I am nearly 25 and I do wish my next relationship to be something that lasts more than just few months. And apart from all the physical and online filters, there’s a lot to expect in person too. Loyal, kind, emphatic, nice to family, good with kids, generous, smart, adventurous, spontaneous, romantic, creative and etc. and fortunately, I can be confident that I have all of the above so I won’t be lowering my expectations. But I could never get an idea about these things on Bumble.
But here’s the thing, when we’re meeting someone online, it’s just so hard to apply all of these criteria, and even though I do my best, there are still some dates that go terribly wrong and makes me wonder what else I need to look out for. Is there any other red flags to consider when swiping? Or am I filtering too much?