Canadian trying to find a urologist in Buffalo?

Hi there. I am from Canada, and so far I have not been able to get appropriate medical care over here. My condition is worsening and I'm thinking of crossing the border into Buffalo to see a urologist. I have a couple questions:

1: Does anyone know any good urologists that will see women?

2: do I need a referral from a gp to see a urologist in buffalo, or can I just call directly and make an appointment? this is important because my doctor does not like writing referrals to specialists outside Canada.

3: anything else I need to know, that won't be immediately obvious?

Thank you everyone. I'm sorry to impose, but I am getting desperate 😖