Is it nuts to refuse family help?

38F here with a baby under a year old, I’ve recently finished maternity leave. Situation is as follows: I work from home 3 days a week, husband for 2 days a week. We are lucky enough to have a nanny staying till 4pm daily, which means at that time we have to close laptops and log in later on if we need to.

That’s the theory anyway - hasn’t been tested yet as my parents kindly came to help us while we found a suitable nanny, and she started this week. So my parents were going to go back home next weekend.

Now on to the problem. Baby is a fussy eater and sleeper, and nanny might need a period of adjustment to handle her. Also, husband isn’t the best at feeding her, and he would need to give her dinner after 4pm. My mum, who admittedly is great with the baby, has offered to stay another couple of weeks while we see how we get on.

Which in theory is so kind! However they have been here a month, living together, and… it’s not been the easiest. I know I sound ungrateful, but sometimes the jabs about how I don’t run my house or deal with my baby as I ‘should’ get difficult. And they really can’t stand my husband, for somewhat understandable reasons (feeling is mutual). So it’s not exactly heaven, and when she offered I was less than enthusiastic but eventually agreed - partly because it may be better for baby, and partly because I don’t want to upset mum.

Of course now mum is upset anyway because I wasn’t enthusiastic and she feels like she begged. And she may be right - would all you sane people jump at the chance for a bit of extra help? Am I really the ungrateful unrealistic odd one out?

Give it to me straight, and thanks for reading my ramble.