Something we all have to do

I feel like my final observation on this topic as I don't want to waste any more energy on it is this. I think we can all agree avoidents have their issues and did more wrong than us. I think though most of us in this reddit (including myself) are anxiously attached. If we have any shot of improving our chance of working with our avoident partner and even for ourselves , we need to work on becoming more secure. Like I said the avoident parter definitely did more harm but we also probably need to work on being able to give space and to not worry so much. Only then can we truly have a healthy relationship with anyone. Don't even do it for others. Do it for yourself.