Have you dated a single father?

Hello, I was hoping for a woman’s perspective on my situation. I would prefer to hear it like it is so I can process what needs to be done. If you’re reading this and decide to leave a comment, I appreciate your time.

I (36M) found out my wife (34F) was cheating and we are going through the separation process. I have a lot of anxiety about the future right now. I loved being a husband and now I feel lost. I’m worried that I won’t be able to find love again. I know it’s too early, but eventually I would like to be in a committed relationship again. As a single dad of two small kids, I don’t know how to approach seeking romance again.

Do women even want a man who already has kids? I’ve never had to think about this before. I love my kids and I have to put their interests first. I imagine most women aren’t looking to be someone’s second priority. If I made her a priority on days when I’m not with the kids, is that even enough?

I can’t be bringing people into their lives until they’ve been properly vetted. Even then, raising the kids is still my responsibility. I mean, I would hope we could all get along and enjoy each other’s company, but I’ve never had step-parents and I don’t really understand the dynamic and how I would properly navigate that in a way that is healthy for everyone involved.

I met my wife when I was young before all the dating/hook up apps were a thing. Is that what everyone is doing now? Truthfully it sounds like a miserable experience. Is that even the place to look for a committed partner?

I guess I have a lot of specific questions, so instead I’ll just generalize:

Is there anyone out there who decided to date a single dad and it worked out? What did he do right? How did he navigate the situation in a way that made you feel like you could be loved and respected?

I guess I’d also like to hear from those of you who dated a single dad and it didn’t work out. Why couldn’t he make it work for you?