Men, what do you prefer in a woman?

So I'm a 19f, and I have been told my entire life that in order to find a guy, I had to act and look a certain way. I was told to wear pretty dresses, always have my hair in order, wear makeup whenever I went out, be quiet, agreeable, gentle, and as feminine as possible.

I really struggled because I was none of those things. I am a tomboy and all of my friends were boys. We would roughhouse and play in the mud and pull pranks and were always loud and wild. I have a huge sense of humour and had a temper that I wasn't afraid to use. I hated wearing makeup and even though I did love wearing cute dresses and doing my hair up, I was most of the time in baggy clothing and had my hair roughly done. I never looked like a mess, I always tried to look presentable. But not enough to be able to walk the red carpet.

My hobbies aren't exactly all feminine. I love sports and martial arts. Which is a disappointment to my family because I was supposed to be the girl who knew how to sew, cook, and know every musical instrument.

I never had any boyfriends at all growing up, and people told me it was because I wasn't trying to be girly enough. But really it was because every guy I knew was my friend, and it grossed me out to even think about dating one of them.

All my friends my age were told the exact same thing, and they turned out to be the perfect women. Not very opinionated, very quiet, literally agreed with everything a guy told them. They acted perfect, knew every life skill. But they just seems lifeless.

Ironically, I was the first one to get into a healthy relationship, and now I'm married to him. We are super happy, and we are best friends.

All of the other girls are still looking for someone and have had zero luck.

Im still looked down upon, because my husband and I treat each other like best friends and play together and act dumb all the time. My family tells me that I should quiet down and be more serious. But my husband likes me the way I am and I'm wondering if I just got lucky or if my family got it all wrong.

Don't get me wrong, I adore cooking and cleaning for him and looking after him. I love it when he makes decisions and I love looking cute and pretty for him. And I'm not as crazy as I was when I was a little kid of course. I know how to have a proper conversation and act human. It's just annoying having my family pester me about it all the time. I know every guy has a type and that's completely fine.

So what type of women would attract you?

AlsO, to the people asking why I am asking other men this, and saying ym husband would be upset if he found out about this post... Hubby already knows about this post. We were in deep discussion about this earlier today, and we decided to just go and ask people ourselves. I injured my hand in a fall and hubby is literally the one who helped me type this.