How do you get your life together mid 30?

when you got nothing going for yourself, like career, money, friends, etc? I'm a believer that change can happen but I'm afraid I may never change it and no one would want to partner up with me because of where I put myself. Any stories would help

like what steps did you take other than grooming yourself, making your bed, sleeping, going to gym, etc.

I'm referring to practical steps for someone who got nothing else going from them and want to be unrecognizable in under 5 years or so. Like getting a great job, being a socially calibrated person, making tons of money, having a more exciting life, etc