Where are the girl’s girls in real life?

I am active in this sub. I see healthy discussions amongst women with real progressive thoughts and upvotes for the correct way to look at things. In contrast, the male sub is filled with anti woman comments and posts.

But then irl, all my friends are mostly male. I used to have big female group of friends who later started fighting me on ridiculous things like whether women should do household chores, pati ki seva, give dowry, etc. Some of these were iitians too. I have lost long term friendships over jealousy, or blatant misogyny coming from my own friends.

The last friend I lost was when she ruined my birthday with attention seeking drama and then refused to apologise even when pointed out by more than one person. But then redditors seem to share my opinion on everything and it leaves me baffled that where are these women in real life, and why can’t we be a little more united over issues that clearly affect us all.