Weird encounter at my society gym, don’t know how to handle it!
So, I (29F) am a regular at my society gym and have a couple of friends there. One of them often tags along with their dad, who is single. Now, I won’t lie, he’s definitely zaddy material, but I’ve never looked at him that way. Our usual interactions are limited to a polite “Hi Uncle, kaise ho?” and that’s about it.
Today, my friend didn’t come to the gym, but his dad was there. I just gave him a friendly smile and continued my workout. While I was resting, he came up to me and started a conversation about my career. He praised me for being independent, which was fine, but then he suddenly asked, “Why are you still single?” 🥲
I just laughed it off and said I wasn’t actively looking. That’s when he hit me with, “I would have swooped you up if you weren’t my son’s friend.” I awkwardly smiled, thinking it was a joke, but then he doubled down and said, “No, really, I mean it.”
I had no idea how to respond, so I just excused myself, left my workout halfway, and walked out of the gym. Now I feel completely weirded out and creeped out.
At the same time, I’m wondering if I’m overthinking it. He has never said anything remotely like this before or acted in a way that would have made me suspicious. Maybe it was just a harmless joke? But if it was, why did it make me so uncomfortable?
I don’t know how to face him again, and I’m not sure if I should even mention this to my friend. What do I do? Should I act like nothing happened? Avoid him? Tell my friend? I feel so weird about the whole thing.
Edit: I just wanted to thank everyone for their kind words and support. I wrote this post as soon as I got home, while my mind was racing, trying to process whether that really just happened. At the time, I couldn’t bring myself to talk to my friend about it, but after giving it some thought, I now realize that it’s necessary. Thank you for putting sense into me ❤️
Update: I spoke to my friend. He was shocked to know that his dad tried to hit on me. He told me that his dad is feeling a bit lonely lately and he is been talking to women his age but he never thought he would pull something like this. He apologised for his behaviour and assured this will never happen again and said that they would change their gym timing if I am uncomfortable in his presence and said he hopes this doesn’t change anything between us. I think he handled it waaaaay better than I thought he would and I am glad it went smooth and I didn’t have to justify anything to him for him to believe it🥲