The process of AM search is exhausting | 28 M

Its been pretty exhausting since an year on and off on matrimony apps. Met all sort of strange folks , also the conversation was pretty dead. My question to you all is how do you even decide that you have found the right person in the process.

I thought for the AM route on paper my profile was ideal and nice. Im 6ft tall , look conventionally attractive and earn close to 50 Lpa. But i feel that number of people in urban settings like me willing to do an arranged marriage have drastically reduced since parents and their kids have different expectations wrt marriage and an ideal partner altogether.

All the girls i talked to or met i was able to see them on dating apps too, im pretty sure to conversations there might not have been so super formal. But this highlights how matrimony platforms are not working out yet most people in my circle are paying for premium subscriptions both guys and girls. I have not had issues with getting matches on a dating app top but that is pretty exhausting for me and for someone looking for something as serious as marriage it doesn't works either cause there is always a problem of plenty for people having so many options.

Coming to the type of people i met via AM setup.

One girl came with an ipad and was marking some checklists, apparently she wanted to compare 6-7 guys she was meeting over a weekend lol.

Then there are the usual kundali nonsense.

Weirdest was that once met a prospect for coffee and her bf was there too in another table she asked me to reject her as her parents are behind her back to get married and she already has a guy (pointing to him) and they both need couple of years more.