2+ Years in the Arranged Marriage Circus!

I’m so fed up, yaar. I’m 31M, and for the last 2+ years, my life has been stuck in this arranged marriage nonsense. Har mahine, 1-2 Sundays are booked for meeting some random girl, and it’s always the same story. We match, we chat, we meet, aur kuch hota hi nahi!

Kabhi ladki mujhe reject karti hai, kabhi I have to reject her. And when finally the girl and I are on the same page, our parents step in and say no. Ab toh bas ek boring routine ban gaya hai.

You know what’s worse? Some girls connect, chat for a bit, and then poof—disappear. Kabhi toh lagta hai ki things are positive after meeting, but a few weeks later, rejection aa jata hai without any reason. Aur jab mom and dad told me to compromise—like agreeing to a divorced girl, someone 5 years older, or even a girl I wasn’t attracted to—I still said okay. Par tab bhi rejection mila. Matlab mai itna bura hoon kya?

Upar se, all my relatives and well-wishers keep asking, “Shaadi kab kar rahe ho?” Matlab, kya karoon? Ghar ke bahar poster lagao? Every time they ask, I tell them, “Agar koi ladki pata hai toh batao.” But nobody does anything. Sab bas bolte rehte hain, advice dete hain, but help? Zero.

Sometimes I feel like life would have been easier if I had found love in college or my 20s. At least I wouldn’t be stuck in this boring, irritating process.

And don’t even get me started on my family. My parents are 65+ now. They’re getting old and can’t put in much effort anymore. Plus, their expectations and mine are worlds apart. My elder sisters? Hah. All they do is give advice and keep asking, “Kidhar baat bani?” When I tell them to help, they say they’re too busy with their kids and lives.

And as if this wasn’t enough, we keep hearing these crazy horror stories—like what happened with Atul Subhash and Puneet Khurana. It’s scary, yaar. This whole process is not just exhausting, it’s stressful.

Even my community isn’t helpful. Most girls in my community want NRIs or boys from the US. And the aunty-uncle matchmaking system, jo pehle kaam karta tha, that’s dead now. Divorce cases in the community have increased, so they’ve stopped helping. All I’m left with is matrimony apps, which honestly feel like a joke now.

It’s even affecting my work. I’m not hitting my targets because instead of recharging on Sundays, I’m busy meeting families or having awkward coffee dates.

And I’m just tired, yaar. I want to get married—I really do. I want a partner to share life with, go on trips with, and build memories. But this process? It’s making me feel hopeless.

I’m seriously thinking of deleting all my matrimony profiles. Sundays should be for me—Netflix, sleeping, long drives. Maybe if I stop trying so hard, something will happen naturally.

Reddit, kya lagta hai? Am I wrong for wanting to pause this circus? Should I keep trying, or just focus on myself for now? Agar kisi ke paas koi idea ya experience ho, please share.