AITA for moving states and no longer interested in talking to family

Context: I am about to be 30, only child with my mom and dad. But my mom’s been invasive. I had journals I’d draw or write down my feelings in when I was in my teens and she used to hate how I cleaned my room so she would kick me out to clean it for me and read/question them. I got rebellious and left at 18. They probably hated me for it for about 3 months and then 2 years later after living in my new state, convinced me to move back home with them. Mistake in my opinion.

Fast forward. My bf and I met in my home state but he moved to go to his home state. He never got to meet my parents but also telling my parents about any partner I had was always like walking on eggshells. (My mom said my ex looked gay all bc he had long hair…) and probably a little over 6 months into my lease almost being up with my coworker, me and him planned to live together and I wanted to go to his home state. I debated either telling my parents and be honest so it wasn’t a repeat when I was 18 OR do what I did at 18. My dad bought a home in another state and was planning to retire in it, we argued bc they wanted me to stay so I could hold onto the house in my home state so my mom and dad could be at the new house and then come back in winter. I didn’t wan to stay, so I told them not interested. Mom got upset, dad said “whelp” and sold my childhood home. Forcing my mom to move with him.

When I told them 6months into my plan, my mom was upset. Saying it’s stupid, didn’t make sense, soon my mom warned up to it. Dad… didn’t.

When I left, I was so happy seeing my bf again after being long distance I forgot to text my dad the address of his apartment, prompting a text from my dad saying “immature, self centered and selfish.” Since me leaving, my mom’s been a mess. Resorted again to drinking. But she’s a verbal drunk…she called me over and over while I was working. When I texted her I was working and if things were ok, she went CRAZY. Saying I was a shitty daughter, didn’t understand where she “fucked up” with me. Im a piece of shit, wish she never had me, called meloser, failure, saying she would block me, remove me from her life if I wanted nothing to do with her or my dad (which for months I texted and tried to call but the signal there isn’t great bc the house is in the woods) and she just kept going. Blaming me for not taking my childhood home and said if she would have know I was going to be the way I was she would have aborted me.

We argued until I said enough. That wasn’t the first time she’d tell me these things. She sobered down and the next day said “sorry” but she feels the way she feels still with what she told me. I didn’t answer. Few weeks later asked me for forgiveness. To which I said yes. She’s my mom.

Now she wants to talk. I text every now and then but when she asks about me I don’t have much to say, all I do is work. Hang out. Eat out/cook with my bf and that’s it. My dad doesn’t talk to me.

Am I the asshole?