AIO or is my boyfriend controlling?

I am 24 btw My boyfriend(32) is studying for his step 2 medical exam. We had a conversation last night regarding surrogacy (photos below). After that I blocked him for the night so I could get some sleep and think about what he said. I woke up to him calling me a stupid bitch and him saying “fuck you” over and over again and threatening to call the police if I don’t bring back his car that he let me barrow for the past few days while mine is in the shop. I believe he has anger issues. But every time he gets angry he just blames me and says I don’t listen to him like I should or respect his words. (The other photos show this conversation. What should I do? Am I supposed to listen to my boyfriend no matter what and just swallow my feelings for the sake of future arguments in marriage? Is this how wives are supposed to respond? I would like a happy normal relationship and I know that comes with swallowing your pride and listening to the other person but this feels wrong.