My boyfriend talks SOOOO MUCH

My boyfriend and I have been together for quite some time now but when we first met, and I met his family, they would swear that he was almost a mute. Still do. Turns out that’s not true. When we are together or on the phone he is literally constantly talking, even if I’m not responding. There have even been times where I’ve gently said “I don’t feel like talking right now” and he’d respond with “it’s okay I’ll just talk to you”. He keeps me up at night. I love him so much but guys it’s so bad. Whatever ur picturing, multiply it by 10. And it’s even worse because 90% of the time it’s about NOTHING. It’s like he just compiles different words together and lets loose. I have no idea what to do but I need to find a solution because although I love him dearly it’s making me avoidant. I’d rather us just sit in each others company quietly. He’s so sweet and I really don’t want to hurt his feelings but after a long day of work and class the last thing I want to do is talk a lot, especially about NOTHING. Unfortunately I have a very short temper and with all of this I have to fight to not take it out on him when he does this. It’s not his fault, and I love being his safe place. but sometimes, ONLY sometimes, I NEED silence. What can I do?

Update (not very important) : thank you thank you thank you to everyone who has helped!! I’ve had men and women who’ve been married for years who’ve had the same deal, and even some who were the talker help! And have validated my feelings. I’ve also hard therapists reply and do the same. Here’s the deal:

Not a fan of everyone who’s trying to make him seem like a bad person for this!? It’s just talking? Like yeah after a bad day it can be overwhelming to not even be able to pee without a Convo but this man is my lifeline😅I’d rather him talk tenfold than never talk again. But sometimes I just need a little time to unwind. On the weekends I’m super attentive and talk just as much as him. Also to those trying to make me feel bad about this or make me seem like a bad girlfriend, I’d bet everything I own if I showed him this thread he’d laugh at you😂sorry to break it to you but our relationship is very strong, so I could LITERALLY be like “stfu” and eventually we’d laugh it off. I just don’t wanna cause I want him to continue to find safety in me, just let me unwind first.

My first plan is to just start having us do more activities together because with my work and school schedule I assume I’m also just not giving him the time he deserves. If that doesn’t work I’ll do something else 🤷🏾‍♀️ I need to work on my communication too.

Yes I was diagnosed with ADHD and depression not too many years back, yes he knows this. no he wasn’t diagnosed with anything. My anger issues come from my dad. He gets extremely angry at small stuff. I’m not a talkative person really. I’m probably just as stand offish as he (my bf) is.

No I don’t want to “tune him out”. He’s a young BLACK MAN, they are constantly silenced or feel silenced, esp when it comes to their feelings or emotions. I’m not going to contribute to that. I want to be attentive. But when I have the energy to do so Edit: yall aren’t about to make me feel bad for being gentle with the black men in my life, esp when I’m BLACK😂if you feel some kinda way, look up a statistic

No he wasn’t abused or neglected by his mother, his childhood wasn’t ideal but we had similar childhoods. He just enjoys talking to me more than he does others. At the end of the day, ITS JUST TALKING. Anywho, thanks everyone!