My(F22) new Bf(M24) of 2 months said he’d like closure from ex but they were no contact until THIS happened?

I met this man (let’s call him Joe) on bumble two months ago, and we’ve been inseparable since. In the first month, we met almost all days of the week — he takes me out on fancy dates, spends quality time with me, is respectful with boundaries and is always interested in my day and really a green flag overall! We talk about all things superficial and deep, and I could really tell there was a big connection and spark between us.

We naturally talked about our pasts, and he confided in me about how he had recently been out of a toxic situationship dynamic with his ex. They had been together for 4 months and had broken up two months before we met. I naturally asked him some things to gauge his learnings and everything and he told me it had changed what he was looking for in relationships — like his ex wouldn’t communicate and would ghost him for weeks, and he wanted someone who could communicate, etc.

Knowing that 2 months was too soon, I asked him where he was in the moving on process and he said he had almost moved on and was quite there. Since it was just around 2 weeks for us, I didn’t take it seriously and told him we’d take it slow. Regardless, he treated me extremely well and I really liked his character and intellect.

He would sometimes bring stories up well within context. If I said I moderately liked artist A, he said it was a coincidence that his ex was obsessed with said artist too. I use a preferred nickname and so did his ex so when I explained my full name and its meaning, he said that’s cool, and that he has dated someone like that before and that his ex had a preferred name too etc.

We in brief talked about why they broke up etc and sometimes he’d bring up stories from their conversations if we happened to have a conversation of the same topic. I asked him then if he was over her (around three weeks in) and he said yes he was, and that stories to him were from a point of context and experience and not feelings. I trusted him. There would be some unintentional comparisons but I was always in a better light and he seemed happy to have someone who communicated and showed up for him.

Month 2 started with long distance. He had a summer job and went to work across states. Unfortunately around the end of month 2 we started fighting. Small to moderate arguments, I’d be needy and ask him to call me all the time, he’d be busy with work etc and would try to, but I’d get upset at him and blast at him for not putting effort or changing etc. He tried communicating throughout and tried to too (we’d call everyday but I wanted more etc).

Around this time, we started talking about this ex again and it became pretty frequent in the last week. Some of the questions I asked, some of them he answered. But in short, he told me that he would really like closure and that he was over the person but not the situation. He knew he didn’t ever want to go back to her because she was toxic and not good for him and that he had me and intended to love me truly. And that he was way happier now. However he was curious as to why she had to ruin everything when things were good according to him. I told him I was not going to do this if she was a third person between us and he said she wasn’t at all. He just lacked closure and did not want her back. That it wasn’t a choice and he was just curious.

Anyway, we fought for a few more days and I was in a bad space with some family issues and I ranted about how I needed space and he suggested I take a break and that he’d be there for me waiting faithfully. I denied it and asked him if he needed one. He said not right now and then I asked him if he needed one SOMEDAY? We ended up fighting over that and he said he needed some space finally.

He said he needed a week only. He was feeling overwhelmed with work, with us fighting and stuff. Moreover, I nudged him to confess that he did have healing to do. He said we were constantly fighting and it didn’t feel rosy and he was missing his ex’s presence in his life. I started cursing on him and he said he’d need that space to figure out how to block those thoughts and was never going to go back to her. He just needed to be alone for that week so he could internalise things but he would still be committed to me (still my bf in the break) and would hundred percent come back to me because it was not an option/choice. He said he needed to put a final stop to moving on and finally let it go.

I got upset and told him to fuck off. Exactly within a week, he contacted me and told me he was certain he was done. I asked him how he was so certain of it now? That too within a week? He said he was already in the moving on process and nearly there, and he realised in the space that he was just curious about her life and didn’t have any feelings whatsoever. He told me that he hadn’t planned to speak to her at all (they were no contact) but she had posted that she got an important diploma and he just happened to write congratulations. Small talk happened, the tone was friendly but nothing flirty or suggestive. They didn’t even talk about them or any questions related to actual closure or their relationship. He showed me the chats himself. He said he realised his closure was that he was just curious and didn’t have feelings and obviously he had told me earlier he didn’t want her back ever. He said he realised she had moved along in life and so had he, and that in the break he also realised that he wanted me stronger than ever. They only spoke for 2 days out of those seven days and he didn’t text her after it.

He is certain he’s got whatever it takes to leave it all once for all. He was faithful throughout and has always given me his utmost effort and I really happen to connect with him. If we met at a time where he was completely moved on, he’d be the perfect man! Was pretty communicative and honest about the process, and has been loyal. Need advice.

Ps: my friends said his closure will only better our relationship and that since it was never an attempt at getting back or wanting her, I should see it as a he chose to heal to make us strong thing.

Yes or no?

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TLDR: bf of two months had communicated he was near to “moved on” from a toxic ex from a recent relationship before me. I gave him space and all. One month into being official, he expressed he’d like closure but that he didn’t want to go back to her but just close the box and throw it away. That he’d always choose me and that this made him happier and was better. He took a break for a week, was loyal throughout and came back saying he was done. He showed me one conversation he had with ex (which wasn’t planned) but nothing flirty or even remotely close to “them” was discussed. He’s perfect as a person for me! Need advice.